My friends joke that I’m still a virgin at 25… But none of them know what happened to me when I was 18…
Last night, one of my friends had a little too much to drink and jokingly said that I’d probably stay a virgin for my entire life. Everyone else laughed. It was the kind of harmless teasing we often do among ourselves, and I knew that no one meant to hurt me.
I laughed too.
But this time, those words hit me differently.
For a moment, I wanted to put down my glass and say:
“If only you knew what happened to me when I was eighteen.”
But I didn’t.
I’m 25 now. I have an ordinary job, I’m focused on my career, I spend time with my friends, and I love reading science-fiction novels. From the outside, I live such an ordinary life that no one would ever guess there’s a dark part of my past that I almost never talk about.
Sometimes I feel like those years are the reason I seem completely normal on the outside, while inside, I never truly feel normal.
My mother raised me. My father was never really part of our lives, and my mother’s family almost completely turned their backs on her when she became pregnant with me.
For years, she worked as much as she could to support us.
I still remember how she used to tell me over and over that it was the two of us against the whole world.
As a child, I believed her.
She was my only family, and I thought that no matter what happened, my mother would always protect me.
When I was about seven years old, we lost our home.
For a while, we slept in the car, then in cheap motels, and sometimes my mother didn’t even know where we would spend the next night.
One place I remember especially well from those years was Waffle House.
My mother would often sit me down at a table, order me something cheap to eat, and say:
“I’ll be back in an hour. Don’t go anywhere.”
Then she would leave.
A car would arrive, and a man would take her away.
At that age, I didn’t understand how my mother was making money.
It was only years later that I realized she had been selling her body so that we could survive.
There is one particular night that I still remember very clearly.
A man came to pick up my mother, but when he looked through the window and saw me sitting inside, he said something to her.
My mother’s expression immediately changed.
She answered him sharply, and seemed ready to leave.
Then she went outside to smoke, and I watched them through the window.
The man approached her again, and they started talking.
At first, my mother kept shaking her head, as if she were refusing something, but the conversation went on for a long time.
Then, suddenly, she turned around and looked straight at me.
Almost at the same moment, the man followed her gaze and looked at me through the window.
I had no idea what they were talking about.
I only remember my mother’s face.
There was something in her expression that I couldn’t understand for years.
That night, she eventually came back alone and took me with her.
For a long time, I held onto that memory as proof that no matter how desperate our situation became, my mother had a line she would never cross.
I thought that man had made her some kind of offer, which she had refused because I was her son.
Eleven years later, I realized how wrong I had been.
I was eighteen when we found ourselves in almost the exact same situation again.
My mother had lost her job, we had only enough money to pay for two more nights at the motel, and I had just finished high school.
I worked wherever I could find a job, but what I earned wasn’t enough.
One evening, my mother sat down on the edge of my bed and told me that there was a man who would pay $500 if I spent a few hours with him.
At first, I actually laughed and asked her who would pay that much money just to talk to someone.
My mother couldn’t look me in the eye.
She only said that the man was wealthy, wanted some company, and that we desperately needed the money that night.
I asked if there was any other option.
She said that if we didn’t come up with the money, we would be kicked out of the motel the next morning.
So I went.
Until the very last moment, I tried to convince myself that my mother was telling the truth.
Maybe I would just have to sit with the man, talk to him for a few hours, and then go home.
He was probably around fifty.
When we arrived at his house, the first thing I noticed was the family photographs on the coffee table.
In one of them, he was standing beside his wife and two daughters.
They were all smiling.
The living room was filled with things that belonged to children, there were drawings pinned to the refrigerator, and family photos hung on the walls.
Strangely, all of it made me feel safe.
I thought he was a family man.
Maybe my mother really had been telling the truth.
He sat down beside me on the couch and started asking me ordinary questions.
How old am I?
What do I want to study?
Do I have a job?
Do I have a girlfriend?
Then, without any warning, he put his hand on my knee.
I immediately pulled away.
He smiled.
“Don’t be nervous.”
Then he put his hand on my shoulder, and…
That was the moment I realized my mother hadn’t told me everything.
I tried to leave, but what happened next was something I had never consented to.
And when I finally walked out of that house, I still didn’t know the most shocking part of the truth.
I had no idea how much my mother had known from the very beginning.
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PART 2
The man drove me back to the motel.
I didn’t say a single word during the entire ride.
I just stared out the window and tried not to think about what had happened.
I had $500 in my pocket.
My mother was waiting for me outside the motel room.
I got out of the car, and the man drove away.
My mother stared at my face for a few seconds.
I was sure she would notice that something was wrong.
I thought maybe she would hug me, ask me what had happened, or at least apologize for sending me there.
Instead, her first question was:
“Did he give you the money?”
I looked at her.
In that moment, I understood.
She knew.
If she had looked shocked or asked me what that man had done to me, I might have been able to convince myself that she had been deceived too.
But the only thing she wanted to know was whether the man had paid me.
I reached into my pocket, took out the money, and handed it to her.
She counted it right in front of me.
I thought at least that would be the end of it.
It wasn’t.
A few days later, my mother gave me another name and a different address.
I immediately told her I wasn’t going.
She started crying.
She said we had no money left for food, we still had to pay for the motel, and she had no other choice.
Then she said something I still remember word for word:
“You’re eighteen years old. I’m not forcing you to do anything.”
But we both knew it wasn’t that simple.
When someone tells you that if you say no, you’ll have to sleep on the street the next night, then saying yes can no longer be considered a real choice.
I went again.
Then again.
And then again.
The men were different, but what disturbed me the most was how ordinary their lives seemed.
I walked into homes filled with wedding photographs, children’s school pictures pinned to the refrigerators, and family belongings scattered throughout the rooms.
One man made me a grilled cheese sandwich and spent half an hour telling me about his son’s college studies.
Another gave me a coat, saying that his son no longer wore it.
Sometimes they spoke to me as if I were simply a guest who had come to visit them.
Somehow, that normality made everything even worse.
In the end, there was always money.
Two hundred dollars.
Three hundred.
Sometimes even more.
My mother took the money and continued promising that this was only a temporary situation.
She said we just had to hold on a little longer, and soon we would have our own apartment.
Sometimes she even said that she always warned the men not to hurt me.
I couldn’t understand how she could say those words and then calmly take the money.
After nearly a year, I calculated that she had received thousands of dollars through me.
During the final months, things became even worse.
My mother called the men directly, arranged the meetings, and negotiated how much they would pay.
One night, she said that several men would be willing to pay much more if I met with all of them at once.
For the first time, I looked my mother straight in the eyes and asked:
“What happens if I don’t go?”
She was silent for a long time before answering completely calmly.
“We’ll go back to living on the streets.”
That was when I finally understood that this wasn’t a request.
There was no choice.
It was a threat disguised as a necessity for survival.
A few months later, we finally managed to rent a small apartment.
And just as suddenly as it had begun, my mother stopped sending me anywhere.
No more names.
No more addresses.
No more phone calls.
She started acting as if the previous year had never happened.
At night, I would lie in my new room, staring at the walls, always thinking the same thing:
“I paid for this apartment.”
But no one ever asked me what the real cost had been.
About a year later, my mother got married again.
I was nineteen.
Her new husband, Robert, knew almost nothing about our past.
My mother only told him that we had gone through some difficult years and had been homeless for a while.
She never told him where the money that eventually allowed us to get back on our feet had really come from.
I stayed silent too.
I was so exhausted by everything that I just wanted to leave that life behind me.
Eventually, their marriage ended.
By then, I was studying and working.
Although Robert no longer lived with my mother, he was the only person who asked whether I wanted to stay with him for a while.
I accepted, and I moved out of my mother’s house for good.
I almost completely cut contact with her.
At first, she called. Then she started sending messages.
She wrote that I had misunderstood her and that everything she had done was simply an attempt to save us.
One of her messages stayed with me more than all the others:
“One day you’ll understand that I did it for both of us.”
I never replied.
Years later, I saw her again at my graduation.
She came with her new family.
A new husband, young children, a completely new life.
From the outside, no one would ever have guessed what had happened between us.
She spotted me in the crowd, smiled, and approached me as if we had simply had a minor family disagreement.
She tried to hug me.
I pulled away.
“Daniel, please. I’m your mother,” she said.
For the first time in years, I looked her directly in the eyes.
“Go to hell,” I said.
Then I turned around and walked away.
I didn’t forgive her.
I don’t know if I ever will.
But there’s something else that is sometimes even harder for me to think about.
During those final months, when my mother started arranging meetings with several men at once, I sometimes saw other very young men there too.
They were adults, but some of them barely looked older than I was.
Eighteen, nineteen, maybe twenty years old.
There was one young man I remember especially well.
He sat in the corner of the room, staring at the floor.
At one point, our eyes met.
Neither of us said anything.
I don’t think we needed to.
I understood him.
And I think he understood me too.
Even today, I sometimes wonder what happened to those young men.
I don’t know where they are.
I don’t know whether they managed to escape, go to college, find jobs, fall in love, start families, or simply build the lives they wanted.
I hope at least some of them managed to leave it all behind.
As for me, I’m 25 now.
My friends see me as a somewhat shy guy who focuses on his career and simply hasn’t had much luck with relationships.
Sometimes they joke that I’m still a virgin.
And I tell them that it’s true.
Because to me, virginity was never simply about what happened to my body.
My real first time will be when I choose who it happens with.
When no one pays for it.
When no one tells me it’s necessary for survival.
When I can say no without having to wonder where I’ll sleep that night.
And when I say yes simply because I genuinely want to.
So when my friends laughed last night, I laughed with them.
None of them know the truth.
Maybe I’m not ready to say it out loud yet.
But somewhere, I wanted to tell this story, because for years I felt used, as though other people had taken a piece of me without ever giving anything back.
The years pass.
The faces slowly fade.
There are names I no longer remember, and addresses that have become mixed up in my memories.
But I don’t necessarily feel lighter.
Sometimes, quite the opposite.
The farther I get from those years, the more clearly I understand what actually happened to me.
And perhaps by telling this story, I’m finally taking back something I felt for too long belonged to other people.
My own story.
